10 September 2013

blame game

image credit: Andy Arecco
I'm tired of men and women playing the blame game. Who's the most unfairly treated? Who's the most downtrodden? Who's responsible for all the trouble in the world today?

You are! No, you are!

It's ridiculous. Must one gender be the villain, the other the angelic victim? To hear some folks talk, you'd think so.

For example, any post about modesty gets the commenters up in arms. HOW DARE YE, SIRRAH! Any suggestion that women ought to dress with self-respect tramples upon our souls! Anything remotely critical of a woman's behavior is outright approval of rape! Yea, the very word modesty reeks of patriarchal oppression!

Girl, please.

Of course, the dudes can whine too. To counter the indignant women, you find the Fee-males better cover up their bodies! Skanks in shorts are responsible for society's every ill! Hey, if you dress like a lady of the night, we have a right to treat you like one . . . by gum! Or you have very nice articles that encourage men to be chivalrous and all of the male commenters bewail how they caaaan't because women are so meeeeean to them. It's compleeeeetely the ladies' fault.

Seems to me that some folks just parade around looking for things to protest.

As you may have guessed, I don't side with either of these groups. Men abuse women, and it's horrible. Women make life miserable for men, and that's horrible too. Is one gender worse than the other? No.

We're all messed up, and we have been since we got kicked out of Eden. We all need Jesus to help us. We've contributed equally to the wreck of this world (there's gender equality for ya) and God is working to reconcile us, every one.

Besides, I think that playing the victim card gratuitously devalues the real oppression that goes on both here and around the globe. I don't agree with Camille Paglia on, well, anything but I kinda like what she says here: "The true mission of feminism today is not to carp about the woes of affluent Western career women but to turn the spotlight on life-and-death issues affecting women in the Third World, particularly in rural areas where they have little protection against exploitation and injustice." I might get on board with that kind of feminism.


  1. It is hard to decide what I love most about this. Is it that you used the word skank, or that you made good points? I will go with both.

  2. Well... I did title one of my freshman English essays "The Pleasures of All Voluptuousness." Dr Freeh loved that. HOMESCHOOLER GONE WILD